Nursing home - or "Truman show"?


The village of Hogevei not far from Amsterdam is a quiet, almost idyllic place. A pair of dozens of pretty houses with well-kept front gardens, a cozy square, a toy central square with its own post office and even a theater. The inhabitants of the village, very elderly people, stroll gracefully along the streets, wander home with packages from the supermarket, talk leisurely over a cup of tea or coffee in a cafe. Vendors and cashiers, bartenders and even wipers have long known all the residents in person and by name, smiled in a friendly way and waved their hands from afar.

But it's not real. For each resident of the village of Hogevei watch video cameras around the clock. In appearance, nothing gives a nursing home, but smiling salesmen and bartenders are not at all what they seem. All this makes the life here a bit like the famous film "The Truman Show." With the difference that everyone who works in the village is not actors, but doctors or junior medical personnel with special training in the field of geriatrics. And everyone who lives here, suffer from severe forms of dementia or Alzheimer's disease.

read also Alzheimer's disease can be treated?

Hogeway is a closed medical facility, the only retirement home of its kind in the world. The idea to create such a place came to mind Yvonne van Amerongen, who worked for many years in "ordinary" nursing homes in Holland. And every day, more and more asserted in the thought that for anything in the world would not want to one such home for the elderly once fell her parents. Van Amerongen took fifteen years to interest scientists and doctors, to find investors, and then to get out on government officials. But it has achieved its: in 2009, Hogeway was opened.

Its construction cost about 25 million dollars. A unique nursing home is funded by the Government of the Netherlands, and the maintenance of one patient costs $ 8,000 per month. But the families of all those living here receive various subsidies from the state, and none pay more than $ 3,600. This is $ 43,200 per year. For comparison, a typical American nursing home costs twice as much: for the living of his relative in a separate ward his family pays more than 90,000 a year.

Read also Become a parent for your parents

There are 152 people living in Hoogeve, 6-7 in the house, and each in a separate room. The interior of the houses is designed in strict accordance with the era, memories of which have been preserved in the memory of patients more or less clearly - whether it is the mid-fifties or early 2000's. Furniture, tablecloths, napkins, wallpaper pattern. What for? Then, why do nurses pretend to be cashiers and sellers. To the inhabitants of Hogevei felt that they live a normal life.

The modern approach to demented patients who are in the "ordinary" nursing home is perhaps more honest - but absolutely ruthless. "You are sick, you can not take care of yourself, you can not go out, you will forget who you are, and you will never return." A recent report by the Dutch Association for the Study of Alzheimer's Disease shows that patients with this diagnosis taken to a nursing home go out of the houses to the streets for an average of 96 seconds per day.1 Moreover, medicine tends to isolate patients with severe cognitive impairment. Of course, for their own good: it's easier for them to observe and be sure that everything is in order. But, for example, a 2012 study published in Nature Neuroscience,established: isolation leads to a decrease in the production of myelin in the body - one of the main "building materials" for nerve cells.2 And so, in isolated "for their own good" patients, dementia will only develop even faster.

Patients Hoogevei do not know that they are patients, and around - a nursing home. They live in their village in full confidence that they are at home. They are at any time free to go wherever they like (of course, within the fenced area, but everything is arranged so that they do not come across perplexity at the fences). They communicate with each other, go to the post office and to the store, to the theater and to the cafe. They are constantly visited by relatives - many come here almost every day. And even in a unique nursing home doctors from all over the world constantly come. The local model of caring for patients with dementia seems to have turned out to be the most successful in the world today. And similar settlements are already being built in Britain and Switzerland.

Because if a person can not be cured, this does not mean that he can not be helped. In Hogeway, there was no way to treat dementia - it has not been found anywhere yet. But here they have found a way to make people suffering from an incurable disease live normally and with dignity. They felt full-fledged people and rejoiced in life.And if for this it is necessary for them to play along, then is it bad?

The full text of the article about the village of Hogevey in English is available on the site of The Atlantic. The CNN report from the village of Hogevey can be viewed here.

1 Published on the website of the American Hospital Association hhnmag.com
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Nursing home - or "Truman show"?


The village of Hogevei not far from Amsterdam is a quiet, almost idyllic place. A pair of dozens of pretty houses with well-kept front gardens, a cozy square, a toy central square with its own post office and even a theater. The inhabitants of the village, very elderly people, stroll gracefully along the streets, wander home with packages from the supermarket, talk leisurely over a cup of tea or coffee in a cafe. Vendors and cashiers, bartenders and even wipers have long known all the residents in person and by name, smiled in a friendly way and waved their hands from afar.

But it's not real. For each resident of the village of Hogevei watch video cameras around the clock. In appearance, nothing gives a nursing home, but smiling salesmen and bartenders are not at all what they seem. All this makes the life here a bit like the famous film "The Truman Show." With the difference that everyone who works in the village is not actors, but doctors or junior medical personnel with special training in the field of geriatrics. And everyone who lives here, suffer from severe forms of dementia or Alzheimer's disease.

read also Alzheimer's disease can be treated?

Hogeway is a closed medical facility, the only retirement home of its kind in the world. The idea to create such a place came to mind Yvonne van Amerongen, who worked for many years in "ordinary" nursing homes in Holland. And every day, more and more asserted in the thought that for anything in the world would not want to one such home for the elderly once fell her parents. Van Amerongen took fifteen years to interest scientists and doctors, to find investors, and then to get out on government officials. But it has achieved its: in 2009, Hogeway was opened.

Its construction cost about 25 million dollars. A unique nursing home is funded by the Government of the Netherlands, and the maintenance of one patient costs $ 8,000 per month. But the families of all those living here receive various subsidies from the state, and none pay more than $ 3,600. This is $ 43,200 per year. For comparison, a typical American nursing home costs twice as much: for the living of his relative in a separate ward his family pays more than 90,000 a year.

Read also Become a parent for your parents

There are 152 people living in Hoogeve, 6-7 in the house, and each in a separate room. The interior of the houses is designed in strict accordance with the era, memories of which have been preserved in the memory of patients more or less clearly - whether it is the mid-fifties or early 2000's. Furniture, tablecloths, napkins, wallpaper pattern. What for? Then, why do nurses pretend to be cashiers and sellers. To the inhabitants of Hogevei felt that they live a normal life.

The modern approach to demented patients who are in the "ordinary" nursing home is perhaps more honest - but absolutely ruthless. "You are sick, you can not take care of yourself, you can not go out, you will forget who you are, and you will never return." A recent report by the Dutch Association for the Study of Alzheimer's Disease shows that patients with this diagnosis taken to a nursing home go out of the chambers to the streets for an average of 96 seconds per day.1 Moreover, medicine tends to isolate patients with severe cognitive impairment. Of course, for their own good: it's easier for them to observe and be sure that everything is in order. But, for example, a 2012 study published in Nature Neuroscience,established: isolation leads to a decrease in the production of myelin in the body - one of the main "building materials" for nerve cells.2 And so, in isolated "for their own good" patients, dementia will only develop even faster.

Patients Hoogevei do not know that they are patients, and around - a nursing home. They live in their village in full confidence that they are at home. They are at any time free to go wherever they like (of course, within the fenced area, but everything is arranged so that they do not come across perplexity at the fences). They communicate with each other, go to the post office and to the store, to the theater and to the cafe. They are constantly visited by relatives - many come here almost every day. And even in a unique nursing home doctors from all over the world constantly come. The local model of caring for patients with dementia seems to have turned out to be the most successful in the world today. And similar settlements are already being built in Britain and Switzerland.

Because if a person can not be cured, this does not mean that he can not be helped. In Hogeway, there was no way to treat dementia - it has not been found anywhere yet. But here they have found a way to make people suffering from an incurable disease live normally and with dignity. They felt full-fledged people and rejoiced in life.And if for this it is necessary for them to play along, then is it bad?

The full text of the article about the village of Hogevey in English is available on the site of The Atlantic. The CNN report from the village of Hogevey can be viewed here.

1 Published on the website of the American Hospital Association hhnmag.com
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Senile dementia and emotional heat


This woman was very strong and whole person. In 1917, a nineteen-year-old girl, she graduated from high school with a gold medal and decided to continue her studies at the University. For this it was necessary to live in a city that was swept by a wave of civil war, and she decided, despite the fears and persuasions of her parents, to go alone to a distant Siberian city, where it was still peaceful. There she had to study and earn her living in the extremely difficult conditions of that time. In the last year she was transferred to Moscow, where she completed her studies and began to work.

Throughout her life, to all difficulties, she treated as rationally, sought and found the best way to solve, even if it was given to her not easily and demanded to "step over" and give up instant comfort.

So it was when her only and late-born son finished school and could not go to college in Moscow. She helped him to repeat his own path: he sent him to a Siberian city, where it was easier for him to enter the institute, and was left alone at an older age (her husband had died long ago).Relatives and friends could not understand her act - how can you stay alone and leave your son without your constant care? They thought it was a manifestation of some insensitivity. And she did it just because it was the only sure way to help him.

She often helped people. But these were not impulsive impulses, but always calm, balanced, rational behavior, and also she treated her own serious problems and misfortunes. To many, she seemed to be not a very emotional person, and only the closest people saw what she was going through, but she did not allow herself to give herself up to these experiences.

In a very old age, her senile dementia began. The memory, orientation in an event, ability correctly to estimate events and to predict their consequences was broken. And on this background of intellectual extinction unexpectedly open open emotional warmth to the people around her. Her gestures became soft, the intonations of the voice gentle, she could suddenly stroke the interlocutor.

When she was dying in a state that seemed to be completely disconnected from reality, she was pounding her fists without stopping - she had the terrible impression that she was fighting death, it was consistent with her personality. Her son wept with a feeling of pity and impotence.She suddenly stopped her battle, looked at him attentively and said convincingly and affectionately: "Do not cry" and then again fell into a death hallucinatory state.

How can such a change be explained? Did warmth and sensitivity come along with senile dementia? I think not. I think that all this potential of emotional relationships and experiences has always been there. But from an early age she set herself up to control her behavior, to rational analysis of what was happening as the only way to cope with difficulties and not break down - not only for herself, but also for the sake of her family, sometimes to the detriment of her momentary emotions.

This control is a function of our left hemisphere, the left frontal lobe of the brain. But right hemispheric emotional sensitivity was not lost, it was just under constant control, and when this control is weakened by the development of dementia (it primarily destroys these functions of the left hemisphere), the potential for immediate emotional response that was suppressed earlier was released.

Many people in old age, with a natural decrease in activity in the left hemisphere, become warmer and softer.Because of intellectual disorders, this may not be seen by others, but they are especially in need during this period of genuine counter-manifestation of warmth, understanding and sympathy from relatives.

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7 Simple Ways to Reduce Pain


A pleasant aroma of sweet perfume can cheer, in principle, any of us, but it is much more useful to someone who at this moment feels pain. In the study of Canadian neurophysiologists, female volunteers immersed their hands in very hot water, and it was rather painful for them to endure this procedure. But they admitted that their pain sensations decreased with the inhalation of floral odors and the aroma of almonds. But when they were offered a sniff of vinegar, the pain intensified. For some reason, this method proved ineffective for men.

2. Abuse

If your first reaction to pain is selective abuse, do not be ashamed of it. Psychologists from the University of Kiel (Great Britain) found that the subjects were better tolerated by the cold (their hands were immersed in icy water) when they swore. Here is one possible explanation: the abuse awakens aggression in us, and then the adrenaline and noradrenaline are released, which provide a surge of energy and dull the pain reaction. However, those who are accustomed to swear a lot and not on the case, this technique will not help.

3. Take a look at the masterpiece

Do you admire Picasso? Admire Botticelli? Save a couple of your favorite pictures in your smartphone - maybe one day they will replace you with an anesthetic. Neurologists from the University of Bari (Italy) conducted a rather brutal experiment: with the help of a laser pulse they caused painful tingling in the hands of the subjects and asked them to look at the pictures at the same time. When examining the masterpieces of Leonardo, Botticelli, Van Gogh, the painful feelings of the participants were a third less intense than when looking at an empty canvas or on canvases that did not cause strong emotions - this was confirmed by instruments measuring the activity of different parts of the brain.

4. Cross your arms

Just putting one hand on the other (but unusual for you way), you can make the feeling of pain less intense. Detecting it helped all the same laser, which sent to the back of the palms of volunteers neurologists from University College in London. Scientists believe that the unusual arrangement of the hands confuses the brain and disrupts the treatment of the pain signal.

5. Listen to music

It is well known that music can heal a broken heart, but it can also relieve physical suffering.Participants in the experiment, who were treated with teeth, were less likely to be asked to anesthetize if they watched music videos during the procedure. And it was found out that oncological patients coped better with postoperative pains if they were playing ambient music (electronic music based on modulations of the sound timbre).

6. Fall in Love

Love makes the world brighter, food tastes better, and it can also be an excellent anesthetic. Neuroscientists at Stanford University have checked that when a person thinks about the object of his love, the pleasure centers in his brain activate, those that cause a sense of euphoria when taking cocaine or when winning a large casino. Just looking at a photo of a loved one can block pain like opioid analgesics. Do I need to clarify that photos of pretty people who are not nice to the heart have no effect?

7. Touch the sore spot

It turns out that we are not for nothing catching at the bruised elbow or rubbing the aching lower back: neuroscientists from the University College of London confirmed the fact that touching the sore spot significantly (by 64%!) Reduces pain symptoms. The reason is that the brain perceives the connected parts of the body (for example, the arm and the lower back) as one.And the pain, "spread out" over a large area, is no longer felt so intensely.

For more information, see Pain Medicine, April 2015; Physiology and Behavior, 2002, vol. 76; Neuroreport, 2009, No. 20 (12); New Scientist, 2008, No. 2674, 2001, No. 2814, 2006, No. 2561; PLoS One, 2010, No. 5; BBC News, an online publication dated September 24, 2010.

Text: Maria Fedotova
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Nursing home - or "Truman show"?


The village of Hogevei not far from Amsterdam is a quiet, almost idyllic place. A pair of dozens of pretty houses with well-kept front gardens, a cozy square, a toy central square with its own post office and even a theater. The inhabitants of the village, very elderly people, stroll gracefully along the streets, wander home with packages from the supermarket, talk leisurely over a cup of tea or coffee in a cafe. Vendors and cashiers, bartenders and even wipers have long known all the residents in person and by name, smiled in a friendly way and waved their hands from afar.

But it's not real. For each resident of the village of Hogevei watch video cameras around the clock. In appearance, nothing gives a nursing home, but smiling salesmen and bartenders are not at all what they seem. All this makes the life here a bit like the famous film "The Truman Show." With the difference that everyone who works in the village is not actors, but doctors or junior medical personnel with special training in the field of geriatrics. And everyone who lives here, suffer from severe forms of dementia or Alzheimer's disease.

read also Alzheimer's disease can be treated?

Hogeway is a closed medical facility, the only retirement home of its kind in the world. The idea to create such a place came to mind Yvonne van Amerongen, who worked for many years in "ordinary" nursing homes in Holland. And every day, more and more asserted in the thought that for anything in the world would not want to one such home for the elderly once fell her parents. Van Amerongen took fifteen years to interest scientists and doctors, to find investors, and then to get out on government officials. But it has achieved its: in 2009, Hogeway was opened.

Its construction cost about 25 million dollars. A unique nursing home is funded by the Government of the Netherlands, and the maintenance of one patient costs $ 8,000 per month. But the families of all those living here receive various subsidies from the state, and none pay more than $ 3,600. This is $ 43,200 per year. For comparison, a typical American nursing home costs twice as much: for the living of his relative in a separate ward his family pays more than 90,000 a year.

Read also Become a parent for your parents

There are 152 people living in Hoogeve, 6-7 in the house, and each in a separate room. The interior of the houses is designed in strict accordance with the era, memories of which have been preserved in the memory of patients more or less clearly - whether it is the mid-fifties or early 2000's. Furniture, tablecloths, napkins, wallpaper pattern. What for? Then, why do nurses pretend to be cashiers and sellers. To the inhabitants of Hogevei felt that they live a normal life.

The modern approach to demented patients who are in the "ordinary" nursing home is perhaps more honest - but absolutely ruthless. "You are sick, you can not take care of yourself, you can not go out, you will forget who you are, and you will never return." A recent report by the Dutch Association for the Study of Alzheimer's Disease shows that patients with this diagnosis taken to a nursing home go out of the houses to the streets for an average of 96 seconds per day.1 Moreover, medicine tends to isolate patients with severe cognitive impairment. Of course, for their own good: it's easier for them to observe and be sure that everything is in order. But, for example, a 2012 study published in Nature Neuroscience,established: isolation leads to a decrease in the production of myelin in the body - one of the main "building materials" for nerve cells.2 And so, in isolated "for their own good" patients, dementia will only develop even faster.

Patients Hoogevei do not know that they are patients, and around - a nursing home. They live in their village in full confidence that they are at home. They are at any time free to go wherever they like (of course, within the fenced area, but everything is arranged so that they do not come across perplexity at the fences). They communicate with each other, go to the post office and to the store, to the theater and to the cafe. They are constantly visited by relatives - many come here almost every day. And even in a unique nursing home doctors from all over the world constantly come. The local model of caring for patients with dementia seems to have turned out to be the most successful in the world today. And similar settlements are already being built in Britain and Switzerland.

Because if a person can not be cured, this does not mean that he can not be helped. In Hogeway, there was no way to treat dementia - it has not been found anywhere yet. But here they have found a way to make people suffering from an incurable disease live normally and with dignity. They felt full-fledged people and rejoiced in life.And if for this it is necessary for them to play along, then is it bad?

The full text of the article about the village of Hogevey in English is available on the site of The Atlantic. The CNN report from the village of Hogevey can be viewed here.

1 Published on the website of the American Hospital Association hhnmag.com
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Do we enjoy high social status?


Can happy owners of a high position in society boast of good health? This conclusion seems dubious at first glance: after all, top-managers of companies, together with the authorities taking on greater responsibility, clearly feel more stressful than their less responsible subordinates.

But Professor Modupe Akinola of the Columbia School of Business and Professor Wendy Berry Mendes of the University of California, USA, are confident that a high social status has a positive effect on short-term psychological, physiological and behavioral indicators *. This was confirmed by two experiments **.

To perform the first task, police officers were involved, who before the beginning of the experiment had to assess their social status with respect to their colleagues. After that, the subjects were included in a role-playing game, during which they experienced severe stress. All of them were warned that the results of this assignment are the basis for an increase in many police departments. Officers who rated their social status as high showed better physiological results in response to stress.

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Then the researchers moved on to a deeper study of the relationship between status and adaptation to stress in subjects. To participate in the second stage of the experiment, men with higher education were invited. They, unlike the first experiment, the social roles were "distributed" by the experimenters themselves - they involved them in a video game. In the process of intense play, the reaction of their cardiovascular system to stress and testosterone levels were monitored. The results of this experiment finally confirmed the correctness of the hypothesis put forward - the participants, who received a conditional high social status at the beginning, demonstrated not only a better physiological result, but also a positive attitude throughout the task.

* Social Psychological and Personality Science, October 17, 2014

** http://www8.gsb.columbia.edu/ideas-at-work/publication/832

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Do we enjoy high social status?


Can happy owners of a high position in society boast of good health? This conclusion seems dubious at first glance: after all, top-managers of companies, together with the authorities taking on greater responsibility, clearly feel more stressful than their less responsible subordinates.

But Professor Modupe Akinola of the Columbia School of Business and Professor Wendy Berry Mendes of the University of California, USA, are confident that a high social status has a positive effect on short-term psychological, physiological and behavioral indicators *. This was confirmed by two experiments **.

To perform the first task, police officers were involved, who before the beginning of the experiment had to assess their social status with respect to their colleagues. After that, the subjects were included in a role-playing game, during which they experienced severe stress. All of them were warned that the results of this assignment are the basis for an increase in many police departments. Officers who rated their social status as high showed better physiological results in response to stress.

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Then the researchers moved on to a deeper study of the relationship between status and adaptation to stress in subjects. To participate in the second stage of the experiment, men with higher education were invited. They, unlike the first experiment, the social roles were "distributed" by the experimenters themselves - they involved them in a video game. In the process of intense play, the reaction of their cardiovascular system to stress and testosterone levels were monitored. The results of this experiment finally confirmed the correctness of the hypothesis put forward - the participants, who received a conditional high social status at the beginning, demonstrated not only a better physiological result, but also a positive attitude throughout the task.

* Social Psychological and Personality Science, October 17, 2014

** http://www8.gsb.columbia.edu/ideas-at-work/publication/832

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Do we enjoy high social status?


Can happy owners of a high position in society boast of good health? This conclusion seems dubious at first glance: after all, top-managers of companies, together with the authorities taking on greater responsibility, clearly feel more stressful than their less responsible subordinates.

But Professor Modupe Akinola of the Columbia School of Business and Professor Wendy Berry Mendes of the University of California, USA, are confident that a high social status has a positive effect on short-term psychological, physiological and behavioral indicators *. This was confirmed by two experiments **.

To perform the first task, police officers were involved, who before the beginning of the experiment had to assess their social status with respect to their colleagues. After that, the subjects were included in a role-playing game, during which they experienced severe stress. All of them were warned that the results of this assignment are the basis for an increase in many police departments. Officers who rated their social status as high showed better physiological results in response to stress.

read alsoPrice of success: how much we are willing to pay

Then the researchers moved on to a deeper study of the relationship between status and adaptation to stress in subjects. To participate in the second stage of the experiment, men with higher education were invited. They, unlike the first experiment, the social roles were "distributed" by the experimenters themselves - they involved them in a video game. In the process of intense play, the reaction of their cardiovascular system to stress and testosterone levels were monitored. The results of this experiment finally confirmed the correctness of the hypothesis put forward - the participants, who received a conditional high social status at the beginning, demonstrated not only a better physiological result, but also a positive attitude throughout the task.

* Social Psychological and Personality Science, October 17, 2014

** http://www8.gsb.columbia.edu/ideas-at-work/publication/832

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The price of success: how much we are willing to pay


Many men and women, especially up to 3 years old, are puzzled by the question of how to become more successful. At the same time, everyone understands this task in their own way. Someone, for example, wants to achieve success in business and be successful with women. Another - to make a career, to become famous, to accumulate a fortune. The third is to marry successfully, give birth to children and settle in a country house. There are many formulas for success, books on the topic "How to become more successful," trainings, developing abilities to achieve. Motivation of achievements is one of the priority areas of psychology. Psychology of success, trainings of personal effectiveness are actively represented in the market of psychological and near-psychological services. Learn the formula for success, achieve it, become more successful want to everyone?

How is success

Not every achievement is a success. Success has three characteristics.

1. Success is what I myself planned, achieving my dream or realizing my plan. Not a stranger, mine. Of course, I can work on the overall result. But if in him I do not see anything of my own, then, most likely, I will treat him as my help to another person (collective) or as a well-executed assignment. But not as a personal success.

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2.Success is different from luck and luck. Success is what we achieved as a result of our efforts, calculations, and work. Moreover, a subtle psychological law is known: "The more labor and time something cost me, the higher for me the subjective value of the result."

3. This is a success for me, and this is the third feature of success. Success is very subjective: what for me is success, for another can be a failure. Whether the result will be a success, I determine myself. Psychologist Eric Berne believed that among the people there are winners, unconquers and losers. The criterion is this: everyone in life sets goals, calculates how to become more successful. Proceeding from this at the end of life, we can sum up whether it has achieved the desired result. If he wanted and achieved - the winner. I wanted it better, but it turned out as always - a loser. I wanted to, but did not reach the goal, stopped halfway or one step away from it - the unconqueror. According to this theory, a person who wanted to become president, but became prime minister, is just an unconqueror. And the one who dreamed of raising three children and did it is the winner.

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One of the most important and unobvious truths about how to become more successful is the following: one can not guarantee a one hundred percent success. While we are doing something, we can not be sure of anything. Only half the success depends on our efforts and abilities. The second, hardly respected by arrogant people, is beyond the human will. In production relations, in business, talking about the latter is a bad form. Not everyone has the courage to accept that man is not the creator of this world and certain circumstances are beyond our control. And if so, you can only hope, wishing the passing wind or good luck. We can only prepare conditions for success, try and learn how to become more successful, but we can not guarantee anything. For success, however you look, is the result of two components - effort and luck.

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Will I? What is my bar? Will I reach the limits of my own capabilities? In other words, personal effectiveness is what a person constantly checks if he takes himself and his life seriously.The fulfillment of the task of "becoming successful" means that we not only accepted the challenge, but also proved to be well-off in front of his face. And if we can not realize our projects, we feel bad. So bad that we begin to need a quick and bright success. And the worse our business, the less we are satisfied with ourselves, the more success we need. And we are not so attentive to the choice of means, because we need success more and more.

For some people who have not experienced success for a long time (whether it really was or did not go unnoticed), the need for great success develops into the phenomenon of "waiting for a miracle." The person no longer relies on himself, but is acutely aware that fate owes him a lot and justice can be restored only if a miracle happens. Therefore, he decides on an adventure, ceases to realistically see the situation, and it is so easy to deceive him.

Dependence on success is a surface part of a big problem. This is an example of psychological dependence, like narcotic or alcoholic. But if drugs and alcohol are the lot of people with weak will, then dependence on success is dangerous for hard-working and strong-willed people.As a rule, these are those who do not know how to properly assess themselves. And he is looking for external evidence of his solvency. For them, self-worth is determined by external attributes of success: position, brand of the machine, belonging to the prestigious and held. It is these people who come with their problem to a better therapist, because they deserve the best.

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Here it is - a respectable, ambitious and at times cynical man with money. He talks about emptiness, the crisis of the genre, depression. Sometimes this is served as a middle-aged crisis: it has already proved everything to itself, and what does not know further. Such people are very reserved in feelings, so their favorite word is "discomfort". I work a lot, but the excitement is not the same. I am considered an exceptional and tough leader, but what is perceived from the outside as my charisma, from within is a heavy burden: one must meet expectations, radiate enthusiasm and confidence, carry his own image.

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These people have a lot, but they do not have a sense of happiness. They do not immediately recognize that they are constantly experiencing anxiety over a failure that they can not afford now.Every year, stress increases, the tension from what only the new task entices, is more complicated than the previous one, - light tasks became boring.

Uncertainty in your own good attitude towards yourself, that you will not become an empty place, if you remain without posts, lose your fortune, your beloved woman will leave ... A specific protective mechanism that disguises this uncertainty is the need for absolute control. Whether it's work, partner or partner, children or destiny - nothing can be left to chance or another person. Everything should be on a short leash.

Achieve success

But also to remain yourself! First, try to change your attitude towards success. Agree: there are forces that are beyond anyone's control. An unfavorable confluence of circumstances can turn a completely prepared success into failure. How will our will and independent forces combine into favorable circumstances - still a miracle. We can not only change this, but also understand. But the more we strive to promote this secret process, the more we violate it. What is the real recipe for success? How to become more successful and not lose your freedom? Success refers to the amazing side of life, to which belongs joy, happiness,gratitude of children and grandchildren and the deepest feeling of fulfillment. But a detour leads to him. By all means trying to experience orgasm, a person blocks his achievement. Having firmly decided to have fun tonight, a person will look tense. So success: to make it a natural consequence of our life, we must pay attention to something bigger - the meaning of our lives. And then we can afford to be content with ourselves, justify ourselves and respect ourselves, even if we do not achieve success. After all, we did a good job for the sake of the value that we serve all our lives.

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Do we enjoy high social status?


Can happy owners of a high position in society boast of good health? This conclusion seems dubious at first glance: after all, top-managers of companies, together with the authorities taking on greater responsibility, clearly feel more stressful than their less responsible subordinates.

But Professor Modupe Akinola of the Columbia School of Business and Professor Wendy Berry Mendes of the University of California, USA, are confident that a high social status has a positive effect on short-term psychological, physiological and behavioral indicators *. This was confirmed by two experiments **.

To perform the first task, police officers were involved, who before the beginning of the experiment had to assess their social status with respect to their colleagues. After that, the subjects were included in a role-playing game, during which they experienced severe stress. All of them were warned that the results of this assignment are the basis for an increase in many police departments. Officers who rated their social status as high showed better physiological results in response to stress.

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Then the researchers moved on to a deeper study of the relationship between status and adaptation to stress in subjects. To participate in the second stage of the experiment, men with higher education were invited. They, unlike the first experiment, the social roles were "distributed" by the experimenters themselves - they involved them in a video game. In the process of intense play, the reaction of their cardiovascular system to stress and testosterone levels were monitored. The results of this experiment finally confirmed the correctness of the hypothesis put forward - the participants, who received a conditional high social status at the beginning, demonstrated not only a better physiological result, but also a positive attitude throughout the task.

* Social Psychological and Personality Science, October 17, 2014

** http://www8.gsb.columbia.edu/ideas-at-work/publication/832

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